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You’re scared to tell people that you have Multiple Sclerosis.

How will they react?

Will they see you differently?

You don’t want things to change.

But you also feel so alone carrying this secret.

Telling people about your diagnosis isn’t easy. It’s vulnerable. And that’s uncomfortable.

I’ve been there.

As a very private person, I built the highest, thickest wall imaginable.

But the isolation eventually became worse than the fear of opening up.

So, one conversation at a time, I started to share my diagnosis.

And in doing so, I learned a lot about people and myself.

If you’re navigating this right now, here are some insights and strategies to help you share your MS diagnosis with confidence and clarity.

Why It’s So Hard to Tell People You Have MS

When I was diagnosed, I told myself I wasn’t going to tell anyone.

It felt too personal, too overwhelming, and honestly, I didn’t want the pity.

I feared being labeled as the person with MS instead of the strong, independent, ambitious person I had always been.

It took time for me to even understand my diagnosis before I could talk about it with others. But dragging out that silence made the emotional weight feel heavier.

Eventually, the loneliness and resentment pushed me to speak up.

And when I finally did, I started with the people I felt safest with—three of my closest friends.

Start Small and Choose Safe People

I didn’t make a big announcement. I chose people I trusted and started there.

We had brunch plans already set, so I decided that would be the time.

Once we placed our order, I simply said:
“I have something to tell you. I was diagnosed with MS. I’ve had some unexplained symptoms for a while and now I finally have an answer.”

They each reacted differently. One was quiet, one asked questions, and one asked how I was really feeling.

I answered what I could. I let them know that I was still me. I wasn’t asking for anything, I just wanted to let them in because I might need their support at some point.

What surprised me most was that we quickly went back to our usual conversation.

And honestly, that’s what I needed most—to feel normal.

You Don’t Have to Tell Everyone

Not everyone needs to know. And not everyone deserves to know.

This is your story. You decide when, how, and who you want to tell.

When you do decide to share, these tips can help you feel more prepared.

Take Time to Process It Yourself First

Before opening up to others, you need to understand how your diagnosis affects you and how you feel about it.

You don’t have to be an expert. But being grounded in your own emotions helps when others start asking questions.

Journaling or visualizing the conversation ahead of time can also help you feel more confident.

Pick the Right Time and Place

Choose a setting that feels comfortable and minimizes distractions.

That might be a quiet walk, a coffee date, or even a phone call.

For larger groups, an email may be more practical. I emailed my extended family and shared the diagnosis along with how I was managing it. That allowed me to control the message and keep things positive and honest.

Be Honest About How You’re Feeling

Don’t just share the diagnosis. Share your emotions too.

You don’t have to put on a brave face or have it all figured out. Let people know if you’re scared, overwhelmed, or even hopeful.

When one of my friends offered all kinds of support, my instinct was still to say, “I’m fine.”

But I’m learning that it’s okay to accept help and let people in. That’s where real connection happens.

Let People Process Their Own Reactions

Once you share, pause. Let them respond.

People may ask questions. Some may say the wrong thing. Others may not know what to say at all.

Try not to take their reactions personally. Most people are trying their best. They just don’t understand MS the way you do.

And that’s okay.

Offer Resources and Set Boundaries

If someone wants to learn more, you can point them toward trusted resources.

You might even share this podcast so they can hear about MS directly from someone living with it.

Also, let people know how you’d like to be supported or what kind of questions are off-limits.

It’s okay to say:
“I appreciate your concern, but I’d rather not talk about symptoms today. Let’s catch up on something fun instead.”

Communication is key. You get to set the tone.

Build a Support System

Once you open up, you may be surprised by who shows up for you.

Some friends may want to come to appointments, help out when fatigue sets in, or just sit and talk.

The important part is that you’re no longer carrying it all alone.

And you don’t have to share everything at once. This process is a journey.

Each conversation is one more step toward feeling seen, supported, and less alone.

Final Thoughts

You get to choose when to share, who to tell, and how much you reveal.

There is no right or wrong way to talk about your MS diagnosis.

But if you’re feeling the weight of silence, I want you to know there is so much freedom on the other side.

It’s one more way to reclaim your body, mind, and life from MS.

Want More Encouragement Like This? Tune into this week’s special episode of My MS Podcast:
🎧 How to Tell Family and Friends You Have MS
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